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November 25, 2016
 

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What calms you down? Taking risks.

What calms you? What do you like to do to escape the pressures of everyday life and just breathe a little? We all have hobbies we use to escape from our troubled lives. But do your hobbies include taking risks? Trying new things?

What I always did

Since I was little, I always enjoyed riding horses. Seeing a horse is beautiful. Riding on it is wonderful. Dreaming about it is a passion. I've always been an animals lover, but horses catch my attention in a way I can’t explain. Whenever I go to my grandparents’ farm, I see them and I look at their faces. Their eyes reflect lightness, sweetness and life. Some were afraid of me at first, but as soon as they recognized in me a soul that loves them, they let me get closer. And when I ride them, I hear the noise of their hooves against the ground and their breathing getting stronger and stronger. As we run through the trees, I feel my troubles and concerns falling behind.
This is my refuge. It has always been and always will be what I like to do most when I want to de-stress. I think there's something beautiful about the connection between man and animal. However, recently, as I've written for this blog, I've been asking myself more and more about human relationships and how they can help release stress as well.

Taking chances

Trying new things is never easy. Beginning to write this blog was a challenge for me. Especially recently, as I'm trying to be more personal. It was a big step I took in my life. Surprisingly, it is also being a source of stress release. Putting my thoughts, ideas and dreams into these online pages is being more therapeutic than I imagined.
But how can something new and seemingly risky be so liberating? Shouldn’t I be stressed to try something new? Shouldn’t I be scared by talking to people I don’t know and creating expectations about it? Surprisingly, it has been the other way around. I’m learning that meeting new people from all over the world has broadened my horizons and surpassed my expectations.

But what if no one wants to talk to me?

Fear is a natural sensation. The only way to get past it is to face it. Usually when you decide to face your fear, you realize that after all, it wasn’t as scary as it seemed. There are several factors that can create fear and most people don’t realize that fear itself is something that is totally internal to your own mind. It's not a real, concrete thing. You can’t point to something and say, "That's the fear, be careful or you'll stumble into it”. It’s a product of reactions produced by our mind to certain stimuli. It’s internal to ourselves, although it can feel quite real when it’s felt in our body. The good news is that, since it’s a byproduct of our reactions to things, you have a number of options to deal with it or even remove it altogether. Once you are aware of the causes, you can control it and work on it, and follow your freer and less conditioned life.

Start enjoying life and taking chances

So let's enjoy it here, in this online environment where we can meet new people, get rid of our fears and create a new hobby that can de-stress us in the future.
And though I have found a new source of joy in my life, I still love my horses. The sun is already high in the sky and the wind on my face is still cold. In my heart I feel the awakening of happiness.