The world of online dating has evolved. You may know the rules of that game, but don’t you wish you could go back on some of the things you did? When you go through the ordeal, you outline some rules of your own. Here are the dos and don’ts that I learned the hard way.
Do Picture Perfect
That depends so much on your definition of the term. Candid shots are cool as long as they look appealing. Don’t pose for something that feels like you are trying too hard and does not look like you in real life. Avoid glam shots; any picture that would trump all your other photos may not be the wisest idea either.
Yes, you would be surprised by the number of times people have used me as the date dummy when practicing their conversation for their first date with the person they met online (I can’t find the rolling eyes emoji just now). Be confident, be yourself; if he or she falls for all your quirks, you have found the one. Seriously, you can’t rehearse your way through the entire duration of the relationship, or hopefully a lifetime.
Don’t Read Poetry to Her, Boys
Cue Robin William, “Language was invented for one reason boys, to woo women, and in that endeavor, laziness will not do”. You can make your English teacher proud with the correct punctuation and flawless grammar. Proofread your messages once before you send them. Nobody wants a typo that transforms a sentence into the most awkward thing and your self-esteem’s worst nightmare.
I knew this guy once who was super sweet but he kept on sending me poetry. Some he made up some and some he quoted. But here is the thing, I did not know him well enough, and we had not shared enough experiences, so all that poetry did not mean much to me, and honestly I was never tempted to read any of it.
Don’t Treat It Like Shopping
Yes, I know the new snazzy term people are using everywhere: ‘Relationship Shopping’, like all the feminists of the world did not have enough stuff to hold seminars for (yes I am probably going to hear about it later, I know). Here is something I realized the hard way; you can’t shop for something that you know about. And the truth is, we don’t know the first thing about the people coming our way in life.
You don’t have to take my word on all of these, try them out yourself. Sign up for online dating and find your match. Share your experience with us and what you think qualifies as a do or don’t when it comes to online dating.